While it’s true that I met and fell in love with Holton when I was 12 years old, he didn’t become the man of my dreams until 10 years ago. Don’t misunderstand me, I have ALWAYS been 100% loyal to him but I didn’t love [or respect] him then, the way that I love [and respect] him now. And to be honest, it had very little to do with him, his character or who he is as a person…it had everything to do with my own personal growth. For so many years, I didn’t understand my #POWER as a woman so it was nearly impossible for me to be the wife and life partner he needed me to be to fulfill his calling and become the man, leader and ICON he was meant to be. I remember the exact date and time when I made a conscious decision to change my life and the direction of my marriage. From that day until now, my life changed for the better.
It wasn’t easy then, and it’s still challenging now, but my #FAITH in the process and the strength of my character has sustained me through it all. The point I’m making is that TODAY you may find yourself in an unhappy/unhealthy relationship or marriage. And you may feel like my situation is so much different from yours. I would encourage you not to compare my 23-year marriage to your young relationship. Because we didn’t hit our groove until year 13. The difference between us and most people is that we stayed committed.
I don’t consider myself to be a relationship expert, but I do have a wealth of knowledge and experience as it relates to life, love and relationships. What I know for sure is that most people loose faith and give up right before their break-through. It is not enough to stay married, you have to put in the growth worth necessary to improve the fabric of your relationship. I know that it is possible because I did it! So when I say that the love of a great man is the best kept beauty secret on the planet, I am speaking from experience. I look younger and younger with each passing year, and I can assure you that no surgery, exercise or meal plan can compete with the love of a great man. There is nothing in this world more beautiful and alluring than happiness!!! 💗EB